1“Stop judging others, and you will not be judged. 2For others will treat you as you treat them. Whatever measure you use in judging others, it will be used to measure how you are judged. 3And why worry about a speck in your friend’s eye when you have a log in your own? 4How can you think of saying, ‘Let me help you get rid of that speck in your eye,’ when you can’t see past the log in your own eye? 5Hypocrite! First get rid of the log from your own eye; then perhaps you will see well enough to deal with the speck in your friend’s eye.
(Matthew 7:1-5, NLT)
The Daily DAVEotional
“DON’T JUDGE ME!”
Have you ever heard someone say this? It’s become fashionable to criticize others for being judgmental, which is ironic because when you criticize someone for judging, you are, in fact, exercising a judgment against them.
Many Christians have concluded, largely based on this passage, that we’re never to judge others. EVER. To do so would be un-Christlike and a violation of Jesus’ clear teachings.
But is that true? I don’t think so. Let me explain why.
First of all, it’s not possible to eliminate all judgments, at least not in the technical sense. To make a judgment is simply to form an opinion or conclusion based on your own personal evaluation. We do this hundreds of times a day as we make decisions.
We form opinions (judgments) about others based on our personal interactions with them and other relevant data that gives us a window into their character and their personality.
Typically, when people “feel judged”, what they usually mean is that they feel criticized or shamed for something they have done or some viewpoint that they hold.
Is it always wrong to “judge” people or be critical of their actions or their viewpoints?
Clearly, the answer is NO. If that is true, then Jesus himself violates his own teaching as he often had encounters with religious leaders in which he was critical of their teachings and their practices. So Jesus must not be saying that you can NEVER confront, rebuke or correct someone for something they’ve done or said.
Then what is Jesus saying exactly?
The key word in this passage is “Hypocrite”. Remember that we said that Jesus often had encounters with the Pharisees, whom he accused of being hypocrites on numerous occasions.
The word “hypocrite” was an acting term. Actors would play several parts in a live play and would simply wear different masks to take on different parts. So, to be a hypocrite is to wear a mask; to project an image of yourself that doesn’t match the true self.
The Pharisees were hypocrites because they made a living out of pointing out every small flaw in others while giving the impression that they were living sinless lives.
The problem with the Pharisees was their attitude. They were extremely self-righteous, thinking that they were completely blameless, while pointing out to others even the smallest infractions.
Jesus is warning against the kind of religious sanctimony in which you are critical of others for the very things of which you yourself are guilty.
This is clear from the outset as Jesus says that whatever standard you judge others by is the same standard by which YOU will be judged. If you have a standard of judging others that points out every flaw or indiscretion while giving yourself a pass on all the little things, then this is an incongruent application of standards. Jesus points out that this is hypocrisy.
So what’s the solution?
The solution isn’t to NEVER look to correct other’s bad behavior or to NEVER point out another person’s indiscretions or errors. The solution is to confront and correct others in a way that is not hypocritical. We do this by correcting our own behavior first and by being open to examining our own errors first.
We call this humility.
By having an attitude of humility you’ll gain the respect and attention of others and they will be more likely to listen to you and value your feedback.
If we’re not humble in our approach toward others, if we are unloving or condescending as we point out their faults and indiscretions, it is less likely they will pay attention to anything we are saying to them. More than likely, their defenses will immediately go up and they probably will curtly respond, “DON’T JUDGE ME!”
What are some situations you’ve been in that made you feel judged? What was it about that situation that caused you to feel judged?
What reasons could you give to demonstrate that Jesus clearly doesn’t mean that we should never confront others for their actions or be critical of the things they say or believe?
Based on the passage, how would you explain Jesus’ teachings on judging?
What are some things you can do to ensure that you’re not being hypocritical in your actions and encounters with others?
2 Replies to “Is it Always Wrong to Judge Others?”
Wow! My pastor just preached on this yesterday! And he totally agrees with you. You focused on hypocrisy. My pastor also warned against superficiality (don’t judge based on just one interaction with someone), reminded us that we can’t hold non-believers to Christian standards–instead, reach out to them in love, and always, with the intent of restoration, strive to lift brothers and sisters in Christ who have fallen.
Thanks for the comment Linda! That’s interesting that your pastor preached on this exact topic. There’s a lot to say about it and it seems he touched on a number of relevant issues. Another relevant text on this issue is 1 Corinthians 5, which seems like your pastor probably touched upon in his sermon. I’ll likely cover that text in a different blog post the next time that passage comes up in my daily reading program.